We were riding along in the car Saturday, with only small amounts of conversation. You know the scenario, radio on, wife making an effort for small talk, husband replying with "hmm, or yeah, or ok." One word replies. The ride over to my in-laws is about a 20 minute drive, not long enough to discuss anything of depth, but after all it was Saturday and the work week was over, weekend fun should be happening about right now but it wasn't.
I told my husband,
"If this was a first date, it wouldn't be going well!"
I think that kind of woke him up to the fact that I needed a little attention. A little pat of consideration and effort. We've been married 40 years and we're about as comfortable as we can get with each other. We can finish each others' sentences but hey, I don't want to do that. I want him to talk without me having to talk. Does that make any sense? I'm betting you are nodding your head yes!
Dr. Luan Brizendine of the University of California, who's published her findings in "The Female Brain," says the average woman works her way through 20,000 words per day, compared with just 7,000 for the average man. Women also speak more quickly, devote more brainpower to chit-chat - and actually get a buzz out of hearing their own voices! Just the simple act of talking triggers a flood of brain chemicals which give women a rush similar to that felt by heroin addicts when they get a high.
"Women have an 8 lane superhighway for processing emotion, while men have a small country road!"