Wednesday, April 21, 2010

Passing on the Superhighway

We were riding along in the car Saturday, with only small amounts of conversation. You know the scenario, radio on, wife making an effort for small talk, husband replying with "hmm, or yeah, or ok." One word replies. The ride over to my in-laws is about a 20 minute drive, not long enough to discuss anything of depth, but after all it was Saturday and the work week was over, weekend fun should be happening about right now but it wasn't.

I told my husband,

"If this was a first date, it wouldn't be going well!"

I think that kind of woke him up to the fact that I needed a little attention. A little pat of consideration and effort. We've been married 40 years and we're about as comfortable as we can get with each other. We can finish each others' sentences but hey, I don't want to do that. I want him to talk without me having to talk. Does that make any sense? I'm betting you are nodding your head yes!

Dr. Luan Brizendine of the University of California, who's published her findings in "The Female Brain," says the average woman works her way through 20,000 words per day, compared with just 7,000 for the average man. Women also speak more quickly, devote more brainpower to chit-chat - and actually get a buzz out of hearing their own voices! Just the simple act of talking triggers a flood of brain chemicals which give women a rush similar to that felt by heroin addicts when they get a high.

"Women have an 8 lane superhighway for processing emotion, while men have a small country road!"


  1. I have been having trouble leaving a comment lately. It seems if mine is the first one it doesn't post, Crazy!

    I definitely understand the lack of conversation in the car thing, but I enjoy that sometimes especially when my husband insists on reading all the business signs along the highway.

    I would rather he was silent if he doesn't have anything interesting to say but he is one of those male species that loves to hear his own voice.

  2. Very interesting post...both my hubby and I are pretty quiet ...when I go with my girlfriend I am stressed by the time I get home so there must be something true about this..

  3. That make sense! But I'm in the opposite position, you see! My hubby talks better than me. He's the one complaining instead. haha... Funny huh!

  4. Truthfully - I have learned to accept his non-verbalness - if I didn't - we wouldn't have made it for 36 years! lol


  5. The reason women speak 3 times as many words as men is that we have to repeat everything a couple times before they hear us. Lol.

  6. He can use up all of his 6,997 words at long as he saves "I love you" for me. I love both the quiet and the chatter.

  7. LOL...all of that is so true! Thats why blogging is mostly women, we need to talk to each other!!! Come say hi sometime :D

  8. I find that when I tell my husband details, his eyes glaze over and I know he's a million miles away! We've been married 37 years. We tend to forget how to "court" each other.

  9. I just finished nodding, laughing, and smiling my way through this post. I used to think I was the only one who was married to a brick wall...turns out there are lots of brickwalls out there and most of them are married to women!!

  10. I'm too pooped at the end of the day lately to get a good chat going with the Big Guy. At least we work together and have business to talk about :)

  11. LOL cute post Joycee! I don't really have that problem very often with my Sweetie as he has the 'gift of the gab'. I tell everyone that he 'can talk their ears clean off!' and boy is that right! I'm more of a sit back and listen kind of person...but get me going and you may regret it. Living on a farm in the middle of nowhere can starve you a bit for conversation other than tractor parts and machinists talk! Anyway I enjoyed your post. Have a great day....Maura

  12. LOL, oh, I've so been there. Too true. Sad, but true.


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