Saturday arrived just like every other Saturday. We got up late, 8ish... but that's late for us. Coffee, paper and more coffee.
"What sounds good for breakfast?"
Then he mows, I blog and we are off to check on parents. Aging parents who have health issues that we worry about. It didn't happen overnight, we are almost 60 and they are almost 90, but it seems like it just arrived on our doorstep one day, these problems that cannot be solved but only lived. It happened when we weren't thinking of how we were going to get through these years. Our kids are grown, and we should have fewer worries, right? Wrong.
The nursing home called to tell me Mom had a fall from her wheel chair. As we drive I'm thinking how bad her injuries could be. She's frail and bruises so easily now. In my memory is a time when she was strong and could carry me on her hip as she did her chores.
I was a Momma's baby and I needed her a long time.
When we arrive at Jamestown she's sitting in the dining room having lunch. A band aid on her hand to cover the scratch from her fall, she smiled ear to ear. Unable to remember the mornings' event, she is in a wonderful mood. Around the table are friends who share her days, their needs being met by caring staff. I depend on these wonderful angels to care for the one who watched over me and did so much to keep me safe.
Mom's memories fade, but mine get stronger.
I don't care how old one gets, it is still hard to see parents fail. Count your blessings you both have days to share together. I miss my mama everyday.
ReplyDeleteYour Mom is very pretty and how wonderful to see her happy at this stage of life...you are blessed.
ReplyDeleteAmazing how that works isn't it...her memories fade and yours grows stronger..what a gift of love that is. (She is so cute!) :D
ReplyDeleteShe looks very happy. After Dad dies Mom just seemed to go downhill and never really had what I would call good times until her stroke ended it.
ReplyDeleteIt is never easy but I consider it just part of life.
My parents are both gone but DH's are still living. She is 92 and he is 86. She has been able to do all their running, shopping, etc. but I think she is starting to need some help. He is legally blind so everything is left to her.
I think this is the year that we will have to start helping them more. His health is failing rapidly and the doctors appointments keep them running.
We don't know how things are going to play out with his latest problems. We just take each day at a time.
I love Mrs. Willadean soooo much... she is my favorite of all.. I'm so glad I could be there when she fell to sooth her.. I cried as she cried trying to let her know everything was going to be ok!! I'm so sad to be leaving her but I had to take this other opportunity.. better benefits & more pay.. I plan to still go visit her though..:-( I'm going to miss her beautiful smile so much & yours as well!! You are a wonderful person!! Lol you could always move her to walnut grove with me!! Just wishful thinking!! I love you guys!!
ReplyDeleteI love Mrs. Willadean soooo much... she is my favorite of all.. I'm so glad I could be there when she fell to sooth her.. I cried as she cried trying to let her know everything was going to be ok!! I'm so sad to be leaving her but I had to take this other opportunity.. better benefits & more pay.. I plan to still go visit her though..:-( I'm going to miss her beautiful smile so much & yours as well!! You are a wonderful person!! Lol you could always move her to walnut grove with me!! Just wishful thinking!! I love you guys!!
ReplyDeleteOh Christy, we'll miss you! Opportunity knocks and if you don't answer, well you know the rest! Thank you for all that you've done for Mom and the other residents of Jamestown. You are one of those Angels that I talk about! Good Luck sweetie...
ReplyDeleteAw. This makes tears come to my eyes. My mother is in a wheelchair off and on and that is because her legs aren't strong and she falls. Then I think "if she is in a wheelchair, she won't fall. But, she may still fall.
ReplyDeleteSounds as if your mother is happy. That is about all that matters. Love her while she is here. I know you do.
xo, Cheryl
Bittersweet post.
ReplyDeleteToday is my Mom's Birthday - she is 82.
I talked to her this morning and will drive to Okla tomorrow and will see her then. I treasure each of her birthdays and know I am blessed to still have my Mom...So glad your Mom was OK and smiling when you arrived.
How the heck did I miss this post??? Your mom looks like my aunt, who looks like my dad. I nearly feel outta my chair when I saw the picture!
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